I was researching something yesterday and came across something I had never heard of before: “widow” or “widower’s fire”. Apparently it is the absolute compulsion of those who have been made a widow or widower for sex.
It’s obviously not the first thing I thought about when thinking of the death of a loved spouse, but it does make sense.
It also proves, that there is always something new lurking around the corner.
However, I also suspect it was a little overplayed. Looking at “widow(er)s fire” I learnt that it wasn’t at all supported by evidence. There was a tendency for people losing a spouse to buy sex toys for the first time. And so what? That doesn’t support the idea of some kind of psychological condition!! There was also a tendency of older people to get married quickly, because children were not an issue, and their view was “we can’t afford to wait?”
